In this world of ours, there are a lot of people in their twenties, alone, desperate, and woefully inexperienced about social lives. They are the ones who want a friend to talk to but don't know how to make one.
Emboldened by desperation, they all want someone to rely on but feel uncomfortable or hard to get it. Well, this article belongs to them. Whether it's a random girl on the street or a professional athlete, you can attract anyone if you follow what's written in this article.
Well, if you are still reading then it means that you want to do something with this not so much big of a deal.
The first key to attraction is to believe that you have what it takes to be attracted. Yes, this sounds lame but don't you remember the cool guy from your school, the one who was good at sports? The truth is, he was not that good because of his skills but because of his confidence in himself.
If you want to be noticed, then analyze yourself. Just like when you go for a gym membership, where you get asked questions regarding your expectations and conditions by the trainer, here also you have to ask some questions to yourselves.
The questions are very simple, but you have to be honest with these questions as it will be a difficult part over here.
The Questions are:
1. Write one or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you...
2. Write one or two sentences describing how you’d like to be perceived by others...
3. List three of your behaviors or characteristics you would like to change...
4. List three new behaviours or characteristics you would like to adopt...
After answering all these questions, you get an overlook of what you are, what you want, and how can you get it. Well! congratulation, you are now apart from millions of people who never get those answers.
An attractive person is always different from the crowd and with the third step, you are going out of that crowd, which just bugs their head down in their cell phones, neglecting the social world around them.
You all must remember that these steps are steps. You can't do all these at once. So it would be better if you read the second after the completion of the first one, otherwise, the results will not be what we expected so far.
This third step is a field mission where you have to take your courage high and talk to strangers. This small talk could be anything like-
Sports: “Did you catch the _________ game last night? I couldn’t believe it.”
Current events: “Did you hear that _________? What are they going to think of next?”
Entertainment: “Have you seen the new _________ movie yet? I wonder if it’s any good.”
These all can be good starters of any great conversation and remember that the answer does not matter. Whether you get the long story or a cursory grunt response. This exercise is meant to overcome the fear of talking.
Nearly everyone is held back by some limiting belief, whether he’s conscious of it or not. So before I send you running around the streets talking to strangers, let’s clear the air and dispel a few of the most common limiting beliefs about meeting someone.
Limiting Belief 1: "People are looking at me, judging me, and making fun of me".
Let's be honest, we all face this belief whenever we go out in public. We always make this an excuse when we are going for a conversation with any stranger.
One of my friends always encountered this thing, whenever he wanted to talk to someone he liked. But one day, he stood up and said something that blew my head up, he said "If I am thinking that people are looking at me, then they must also have been thinking about what I am thinking about them". So I am not going to bother about them now.
That was the day I thought I lost my friend, and the thought changed to reality, he became one of the coolest guys I knew at once.
LIMITING BELIEF 2: I’m not good-looking, rich, or famous enough to be with a beautiful woman.
This one is especially for dating. A lot of guys think that these are the things that can make you get high-quality women. Well if you are one of them, then it's time to know the truth.
Yes, these things make it easy to get what you want, but can't guarantee that the relationship will sustain for long. The reason is there is more about life apart from just getting rich and good-looking. You must have seen a lot of guys who don't have a million in their account, yet they are living a good and happy life.
LIMITING BELIEF 3: All I have to do is “be myself,” and eventually I’ll meet the right woman who likes me for me.
This is something I heard a lot of times, and I try to avoid these kinds of people as they are just giving an excuse for what they want and I am not one of them.
If you remain what you are then just go through the first part of this article- "The analyzers", as they can better tell you what you are and what you can get in that much.
Most of the time your response will be nothing, and if the answer is nothing but something and you still searched "How to be attractive", Then sorry my friend, but you are a fool. So rather than waiting till eternity, work and get what you want.
This article is very close to its ending, and the last task is what will change everything in your life and can stand you as an attractive personality.